Friday, January 4, 2013

Queen Bees, Wanna Bees & Others at Work

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Unless you work in a male dominated field (I don’t) at one time or another you may have had to deal with Queen Bees and Wanna Bees. Some women have the tendency to be catty towards one another, especially in the workplace. These women form alliances that serve as roadblocks instead of stepping stones for their female co-workers. Films like Mean Girls show how pettiness can affect girls in high school, but what’s sad is this sort of behavior often follows women through college and their careers.


Almost every work environment has the following:

Queen Bee: They are usually are snooty, gossipy, and enjoy making their co-workers lives hell. They say what they want, when they want and believe the world revolves around them. They are either flirting or sabotaging to get ahead.

Wanna Bee:  These poor souls will do anything to fit in and are constantly looking for approval. They will take on the Queen Bees' work, compliment them incessantly and share any info/gossip they have in hopes of winning over the Queen Bee. They are the office's martyr and they usually double as the office mole.

Neutral Bee:  They complete their work and then go home. They could care less to fit in because, to them, their paycheck is what's most important at the end of the day. They are cordial, but know their limits. For the most part, they get along with everyone.

Which bee are you? Remember, the way others perceive you can ultimately affect your career and your financial gaining power. If you are a Queen Bee, people tend to think drama follows you wherever you go and that you're more of a dark cloud than a silver lining. If you are a Wanna Bee, you may be viewed as a liability instead of an asset. Being flip-floppy demonstrates that you lack the qualities of a good leader. If you are a Neutral Bee, then you may come off as not being invested.

Tips for All Bees
Don’t be the one no likes at work. Sooner or later you are going to need someone’s help and you better believe they are going to remember when you treated them like slime. Be cordial to everyone and remember what you learned in kindergarten and say " Good Morning" and  "Thank You!"

Realize when you are being taken advantage of. If you are only summoned when grunt work or gossip is needed, you are being used. Don’t mistake being "used" for being "liked" the two are totally different. Buy a backbone.

Get involved enough to show that you care. Sometimes being too “out of sight, out of mind” means that you may be overlooked for great opportunities.

By: Carline Dumerlin-Folkes


  1. OH...CAN WE TALK!!! Thank you for this Carline and Pricilla...hope many come out and comment and vent about experiences of humiliation and the exhausting anguish in some men do this?? Some women mistakenly use "social ostracization" as a tool. There should be an UnderCover Boss on every floor in every office everyday!!

  2. This is sooooo true. Never be the one who is a gossip, never be the B****, and never be neutral. Do what you love and if you don't love it find something within it to be passionate about.

    Carline...Great job!!!


  3. Great analysis and tips. I stay at home now because of my health, but I've always leaned toward the neutral bee. I think it's because I was raised with all boys. I just didn't learn the catty behavior. I watch it in confusion. But I do see it. It's sad how ugly we women can be with each other.

    Happy Sharefest. I hope you have a lovely weekend.

  4. I love these tips! Especially "Be cordial to everyone and remember what you learned in kindergarten and say " Good Morning" and "Thank You!"" It's so easy to dismiss simple greetings when you see your peers every day in the office, but people DO remember the little things others do to make them feel special.

    Excellent post!



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